Quotes: On Anger

“Anger is a condition in which the tongue works faster than the mind.”

“We all boil at different degrees.”
-Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Anger is never without a reason;  but seldom with a good one.”
-Benjamin Franklin

“No situation, past or present, changes just because we have pointed the finger at someone else.”
-Karen Casey

“Anger is just one letter short of Danger.”
–Author Unknown

“What I’ve learned in life: when you begin your sentence blaming or bashing others, no matter how right you are, people get annoyed AT YOU.”
-Paula Peralejo

 “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it’s stored than to anything on which it’s poured.”
-Mark Twain

“Anybody can become angry, that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, and to the right degree and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way, that is not within everybody’s power, that is not easy.”

“It is wise to direct your anger towards problems – not people, to focus your energies on answers, not excuses.”
-William Arthur Ward

“Don’t say something permanently hurtful, just because you’re temporarily upset.”
–@freddyamazin via Twitter

“No situation is so bad that losing your temper won’t make it worse.”
-Live, Learn and Pass It On

“Any action committed in anger is doomed to failure.”
–Genghis Khan

“You will not be punished for your anger. You will be punished by your anger.”
– Buddha

“It’s never what people do that make us angry; it’s what we tell ourselves about what they did.”
-Marshall Rosenberg

“Speak when you’re angry, and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”
–Henry Ward Beecher

“When I’m angry, I have the right to be angry, but it doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.”
-Live, Learn and Pass It On

“One moment of patience may ward off a great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a life.”
–Chinese Proverb

“Whenever you are angry, be assured that it is not only a present evil, but that you have increased a habit.”

“Do not allow your wounds to transform you into someone you’re not.”
-Paulo Coelho

“When you’ve been angry at someone a long time, it’s easier to stay mad than to make up.”
-Live, Learn and Pass It On

 “If you allow someone to make you mad, you have let him/her conquer you.”
-Live, Learn and Pass It On

“Let us not seek to satisfy our thirst for freedom by drinking from the cup of bitterness and hatred.”
-Martin Luther King, Jr.

“You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.”
-Golda Meir

“Let us not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness.”
-James Thurbur

“He who angers you, conquers you.”
-Elizabeth Kenny

“Life is too short to hold a grudge, also too long.”
-Robert Brault

“If a small thing has the power to make you angry, does that not indicate something about your size?”
-Sydney J. Harris

“For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness.”

“Get mad, then get over it.”
-Colin Powell

“If you kick a stone in anger, you’ll hurt your own foot.”
-Korean Proverb

“Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry.”
-Lyman Abbott

“Always write angry letters to your enemies. Never mail them.”
-James Fallows

“I don’t have to attend every argument I’m invited to.”

“The worst-tempered people I’ve ever met were people who knew they were wrong.”
-Wilson Mizner

“Two things a man should never be angry at: what he can help, and what he cannot help.”
-Thomas Fuller

“Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved.”
-Marcus Antonius

“People who fly into rage always make a bad landing.”
-Will Rogers

“Anger ventilated often hurries towards forgiveness; and concealed often hardens into revenge.”
-Edward G. Bulwer-Lytton

“In a controversy, the instant we feel anger, we have already ceased striving for truth and have begun striving for ourselves.”
-Abraham J. Heschel

“When anger rises, think of the consequences.”

“A man is about as big as the things that make him angry.”
-Mark Twain

“Whatever is begun in anger, ends in shame.”
-Benjamin Franklin

“When you are offended at any man’s fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your own anger.”

“If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.”
-Chinese Proverb

“Temper gets you in trouble. Pride keeps you there.”

“Remember, don’t insult the alligator until after you have crossed the river.”

“Never waste a minute of your precious life by squandering it thinking about people you don’t like.”


Life Lesson: On Holding Your Anger

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Genghis Khan and His Falcon

an excerpt from Paulo Coelho’s story on Genghis Khan and His Falcon in the book Like A Flowing River

One morning, the Mongol warrior, Genghis Khan, and his court went out hunting. His companions carried bows and arrows, but Genghis Khan carried on his arm his favorite falcon, which was better and surer than any arrow, because it could fly up into the skies and see everything that a human being could not

However, despite the group’s enthusiastic efforts, they found nothing. Disappointed, Genghis Khan returned to the encampment and in order not to take out his frustration on his companions, he left the rest of the party and rode on alone. They had stayed in the forest for longer than expected, and Khan was desperately tired and thirsty. In the summer heat, all the streams had dried up, and he could find nothing to drink. Then, to his amazement, he saw a thread of water flowing from a rock just in front of him.

He removed the falcon from his arm, and took out the silver cup which he always carried with him. It was very slow to fill, and just when he was about to raise it to his lips, the falcon flew up, plucked the cup from his hands, and dashed it to the ground.

Genghis Khan was furious, but then the falcon was his favorite, and perhaps, it, too, was thirsty. He picked up the cup, cleaned off the dirt, and filled it again. When the cup was only half-empty this time, the falcon again attacked it, spilling the water.

Genghis Khan adored this bird, but he knew that he could not, under any circumstances, allow such disrespect; someone might be watching this scene from afar, and later on, would tell his warriors that the great conqueror was incapable of taming a mere bird.

This time, he drew his sword, picked up the cup and refilled it, keeping one eye on the stream and the other on the falcon. As soon as he had enough water in the cup and was ready to drink, the falcon again took flight and flew towards him. Khan, with one thrust, pierced the bird’s breast.

The thread of water, however, had dried up; but Khan, determined to find something to drink, climbed the rock in search of the spring. To his surprise, there really was a pool of water, and in the middle of it, dead, lay one of the most poisonous snakes in the region. If he had drink the water, he, too, would have died.

Khan returned to camp with the dead falcon in his arms. He ordered a gold figurine of the bird to be made and on one of the wings, he had engraved:

“Even when a friend does something you do not like, he continues to be your friend.”

And on the other wing, he had these words engraved:

“Any action committed in anger is an action doomed to failure.”